Lol, proximity for the win! I may take you up on that Scoobyshep, for now just point me in the right direction.
Switching to generator power is not automated at all. The generator lives in the garage most of the year, I just get it out for storm events. I'm fine with that part.
We back-feed the main panel and do manual load management. That works pretty well, but during the Milton outage I found myself flipping the water heater breaker more than I wanted. Automating that one thing would ensure we have hot water, help keep the genset loaded, make my water heater breaker last longer, and free me up from having to think about it.
I imagine there is a spectrum of possible solutions. That's where I could use some guidance.
-- Carl