Just wondering if you torque number could be off since you are running down distorted nuts as they require a lot more torque just to run down. Now if it was regular nuts it would be easy to use torque wrench. Last time I used my one inch M18 fuel set on #4 plenty of oil and no problems and never checked with torque wrench.
I'd think the torque spec would account for the resistance of the distorted nuts. I'm not sure how much a difference oil makes because I've read the labels on the anti-seize bottles and directions for things like engine head bolts saying that the torque spec doesn't need to be adjusted to account for the anti-seize. I think a bead lock insert will also make a difference in the tightness of the rim because it acts like a big spring you're tightening the clamp ring against (assuming you don't cut the bead lock insert down from its original size).
Another thing that'll make a huge difference in the ease the clamp ring nuts come off and go on is the condition of the rim studs. Chase them with a die before backing the nuts off, then chase them again if there's more dirt and rust where the nuts were. My studs were a bit dirty and caked with CARC so it took awhile for me (and plenty of arm muscle with a 3/4" breaker bar and cheater pipe) to get the threads clean and back into shape.
That said, when I did my wheels, I borrowed a nice DeWalt 1/2" 20V impact wrench that, when turned up, cranked out at least 450 ft-lbs of torque when tightening the clamp ring. I took the advice of
@glcaines and just tightened the nuts until they stopped turning. I did this following the tightening pattern in the TM. Afterward I used a 1:64 torque multiplier and a 1/4" drive torque wrench to check the torque on each of the nuts to make sure the impact wrench did its job.